Some setbacks are about things that happen.
Some other setbacks are about things that don’t happen. Like being passed over for a promotion, or not being included on a meeting, or your work not being recognized.
All those things that didn’t happen, but you wanted them to.
How does my mindfulness practice help in those situations?
- Awareness. I take a deep look at my own reaction to understand where the hurt is coming from.
- Self-regulation. I try to detach myself emotionally from the situation, to be able to assess it better and reduce hurt.
- Stoicism. I try to remind myself about what I can and what I can’t control.
It’s a process.
It takes time.
It gets better.